I think we all go through those stages when we think we're going to commit to something, we feel really motivated towards our goal; like we could kick the world in the balls. No turning back this time! This time I'm going to really kick-ass!
Well, it's a fact that sometimes we fail. It's like one big punch in the stomach when we've finally realized that we've failed what we've set out to do. And we don't admit our failures when we slip up the first time....maybe the second time....or third. It's only when we're back to our old ways, when one day we finally realize that we're back to who we used to be. And that's when it hits us that we've failed. And that's when it hurts the most, and it's easy to let negativity and millions of reasons wash over you as to why you should never try again.
The important thing to remember now, when failure happens, is that even though we go through these different failures...maybe you've experienced this once, or maybe you've experienced this many times...maybe you're going through it right now....you need to remember that loving yourself during your failures is the most important thing you can possibly do. There is a reason you've failed, even if you don't see it, and you need to take the time to uncover what that reason is--before you try again.
Were you trying or working for your goal for the right reason? Was your heart in it for yourself or for someone/something else?
It's important that you find out these reasons before you begin again, because unless you do, I believe you'll fail again. Only true, passionate, real reasons behind your goals will accomplish success. Once you've discovered the truth behind your goal, you will realize how much you want to succeed. But you need to love yourself, your process, your journey, where you are right NOW, and love yourself in your vision of where you can be in the future.
Trust me, I'm one to talk. I say these things all day to others, and yet I struggle extensively with my own goals. The beauty of the human race is the diversity of the soul. We're all searching for the truth in ourselves. The reason why we do what we do. I'm consistently wondering why I can't commit to change. My childhood maybe? My experiences growing up? My marriage? I'm a master at the blame-game. The one thing that matters the most though, and that I can take comfort in, is that I do know these things I've stated, and that I know what to do to keep trying. I have the knowledge inside to remember that when I try and if I fail, I can always try again. There is nothing ever telling me that I can never do anything.
Life is only a series of thoughts--and thoughts can be changed.
And because of that, I'm safe.
